Forgive: The New Mantra and Practice for Black Men is the new book from author Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter. Within the binding of 128 pages, the author reflects on both well-known and lesser-known Black Men who directly and indirectly influenced his decision
to forgive his father for killing his mother. Stevie Wonder, Martin Luther King, Jr, Gil Scott-Heron, Booker T. Washington and Philadelphia’s own Dr. Edward Robinson, Jr are among the many Black Men featured.
Eric K. Grimes, Philadelphia radio host and Black male advocate, wrote the foreword to the book. Grimes offers: “This book is Ulysses at his best, sharing jewels that any Black man, his family, his community and those who love him will find invaluable in completing his hero’s journey into Exemplary Black Manhood!”
More than a collection of essays and reflections about Black Men, Forgive includes a variety of self-development exercises related to food, fitness and focused faith. A considerable departure from his earlier works that justified “hate,” Slaughter says this new book
represents his anger extinguished by the rain of relentless cosmic truth.
“Forgive represents my internal reconciliation,” said Slaughter. “It represents restoration through remembering who I am. It is the voice of the man I always wanted to be.” At age 12, Slaughter listened as his mother, Clarice, was murdered by his father, Ulysses
Sr. The Illinois State chief witness against his father, Slaughter harbored thoughts of revenge against his father for decades. His previous two books “Why Our Children Hate Us” and “Dear Daddy, I Hate You,” were pillars of a personal brand that declared some things are “unforgiveable.” In addition to the two books, Slaughter produced “To Hate,” an intense video sketch that chronicles his memories of domestic violence and the death of his mother. “I was soaked with hate,” said Slaughter. “But not to my core.”
At his core, said Slaughter, is a simply profound challenge from his mother to “be a better man.” Her response to her son who asked permission to fight his father, Clarice wanted more and better. “I hear her words every day,” said Slaughter who has appeared on The Dr. Phil Show and The Oprah Winfrey Network. “Those words are an enduring affirmation, my mantra.” Supporting his mother’s righteous request is a collection of Black Men whose words and deeds have illuminated the power of forgiving in more ways than one.
“I’ve received the message of forgiving through songs, lectures, books and even sports. Forgiving is more than a moral imperative for Black Men,” said Slaughter. “The refusal to forgive brings on conditions that are more insidious than obvious.” Those conditions, said Slaughter, range from compromised physical and mental health to strained relationships and underachievement. Various exercises within Forgive calls on the reader to mend relationships, eat healthy food, exercise and consistently engage in
“Forgiving is a lifestyle,” said Slaughter. “Everything we think and do influences our well-being.” While he hopes his book will indeed stimulate broad social dialogue, he is adamant that this book is a challenge for individual Black Men first and foremost.
“Collective advancement is most effective when all individuals are healthy contributors.
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