If you’re going to do something about the sexual alienation conspiracy be ready for some of your friends and family to say “be careful” or “be safe.” Sometimes people say that because they are concerned. Sometimes people say that because they are afraid. Sometimes people say that because they wish they were wearing your underwear. Don’t concern yourself with their hang ups. Do your part in dismantling the sexual alienation conspiracy.

“There’s more to life than sex,” they will say when you tell them you’re joining the resistance.

They’re right:  there is more to life than sex. But life usually begins with sex and there is nothing better than sex when you know what it’s all about.

Go on. Explore. And may the force be with you.

Join the resistance!

Attend Sex In The Struggle: Let’s Get It On September 16, 2017 at The MJ Freed Theater in Chester, Pennsylvania.

Sex in The Struggle:  Let’s Get It On is an exciting multi-faceted intimacy experience advocating social healing through sexual healing.  The two-hour event promotes a policy of intimacy through which every individual can choose deeper human connections in spite of the social and personal pressures of the day.  The exciting event will feature entertaining and informative segments focused on health, pleasure, religion, gender and much more.

Confirmed panelists include Dr. Betsy Crane (Widener University Center for Human Sexuality), Eric K. Grimes (Activist and Radio host), Reverend Beverly Dale (Sex Positive Theologian) and Frenchie Davis (Sexpert and Activist). Our audience will be educated and entertained on everything from sexual health and social health to pleasure points and consensual surrender.

For more information about Sex In The Struggle: Let’s Get It On! contact Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter at 267.318.0117

Tickets on sale now at Eventbrite

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sex-in-the-struggle-lets-get-it-on-tickets-37259696756

 

April 17, 2016

YouTube series, “Odyssey to Save Ulysses.”

Here are YouTube links to “Odyssey to Save Ulysses,” a series of short video clips that highlight the forgiveness and reconciliation efforts of Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter and his late father Ulysses G. Slaughter, Jr.

The date is June 25, 1978. The location is a small apartment near 83rd and Cottage Grove on Chicago’s South Side. Twelve-year-old Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter lies on his bed paralyzed with fear as his father Ulysses Sr. prepares to pull the gun’s trigger. “I’ll kill you if you try to leave,” Ulysses Sr. tells Butch’s mother Clarice. “Kill me!” the woman shouts. “Kill me!” And so Ulysses Sr. does. He kills his son’s mother. Within moments, the door to Butch’s bedroom opened and the boy sees his mother bleeding from two gunshot wounds to her right temple. His father is holding the gun.

“I had to do it,” Ulysses Sr. tells his son. “She was going to leave us. I had to do it.”

At age thirteen, Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter would become the chief witness in the trial against his father who pleaded self-defense and served less than four years in prison. Over the next 30 years, the father and son would rarely talk. The father became a social outcast, cut off by his son. The son became a father himself but remained bitter and frequently considered exacting a revenge for which God seemed reluctant.

One day, the son grew tired under the weight of self-hatred and hatred for his father. One day the son decided to seek salvation – for himself and for his father. One day the son decided to take the Odyssey To Save Ulysses.

Odyssey To Save Ulysses is a series of short documentaries that chronicle the reunion and reconciliation of Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter and his father Ulysses Grant Slaughter, Sr. The first film of the series “Act One: I never had a father” is a deeply moving story that follows Ulysses Jr., 45, as he embarks on a 12-hour trip from Philadelphia to Chicago to meet his estranged father. The 75-year-old father waits anxiously for his son in Chicago and reflects on the tragedy that tore his family apart.

Ultimately the two men come face to face on June 25, 2011, exactly 33 years to the date of Clarice’s death. More than a symbolic ritual, the son takes his father to Clarice’s grave site for the very first time.

My Father’s First and Only Visit

To Kick My Father’s Ass

Butch Slaughter

Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter is author of the forthcoming book “Forgive: the new mantra for Black Men.” Mr. Slaughter has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Network, The Dr. Phil Show and The CNN Headline News Network with Suzanne Roberts. Born and raised on Chicago’s South Side, Slaughter developed an early and passionate interest in the concepts of forgiving and reconciliation. Devastated at age 12 by the murder of his mother at the hands of his father, Mr. Slaughter traveled a long and difficult philosophical and psychological road toward resolution. Chief witness against his father, Slaughter was obsessed with revenge against his father. After three decades of estrangement, Mr. Slaughter and his father, Ulysses, Sr., reunited and co-founded The Odyssey Project a dynamic human development campaign committed to “family reconciliation through father restoration.” Slaughter is an entrepreneur, author and filmmaker behind the powerful documentary collection “Odyssey To Save Ulysses.” Mr. Slaughter is Chief Navigator of Slaughter and Slaughter, a multi-faceted development consultant company that specializes in holistic reconciliation. His expertise in difficult family reconciliations was the subject of an Oprah Winfrey Network pilot called “Reconciled.” Mr. Slaughter has appeared on The Dr. Phil Show, The Judith Reagan Show and The Trinity Broadcast Network. Mr. Slaughter is author of the book “Dear Daddy, I hate you: letters to my mother’s killer” and Founder of The Faces of Our Fathers Film Festival.

To learn more visit his official website: http://www.ulyssesbutchslaughter.com/.

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Forgiving Ferguson

Ferguson Looters2

By Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter

I know Michael Brown lived in Ferguson. I know Michael Brown was shot in Ferguson. I know Michael Brown was killed in Ferguson. I recommend forgiving in Ferguson.

I see the frustration in Ferguson. I hear the cries in Ferguson. I sense the fear in Ferguson. And I still recommend forgiving in Ferguson.

But what does Forgiving Ferguson mean?

Maybe we should start by asking and answering the question: What is forgiving? Yes, let’s start there.

What is forgiving?
No. We shouldn’t start there. That is too broad. You and I need to be more specific.

I think it makes more sense to start this discussion with me: the writer, the author, the channel of this idea called Forgiving Ferguson.

Yes. Let’s start with me.

Why start with me? Because that’s how all of us start to understand anything: we start with our individual selves. We start with our individual understanding based on our individual experiences. We start from within. We don’t start with FOX, CNN, OWN or CNBC. I start with Channel ME. You start with Channel YOU.

Michael Brown

So – yes – let’s start with me and then we will talk about the idea of forgiving and then we will go to Ferguson and revive Michael Brown. We will go to New York and resuscitate Eric Garner. We will go to Sanford and reawaken Trayvon Martin. We will even go to Money and resurrect Emmett Till.

But before we talk about anything else, I have to start with me and you have to start with you. As I share with you what I know about forgiving, I want you to think about what forgiving means in your life. More often than not, it is through your personal lens of forgiving that you see the possibilities of forgiving for others.

If you have already decided you don’t want to take this journey of forgiveness then it is best that you stop here and stay here. It’s your channel. It’s your choice. You can ignore this call to forgiving Ferguson.
But remember: time will reconcile all of your problems with or without your permission. You can stop but the world will keep spinning. Forgiving offers you an opportunity to enhance your channel and experience a miracle. Want to experience a miracle? Forgive.

So I’m starting with me. I know something about forgiving. I’ve had to consider this idea and its implementation. I’ve had to consider the theory and how I apply it. I know a little about forgiving. That’s all any of us can ever know: our little part. And we know it intimately. Our experience with forgiving is like the blood running through our veins and arteries. We feel it. It feeds us. We can talk about our relationship to forgiving. We can tell others what we know but they won’t ever really know what we’re talking about. They have to do the forgiving work to know the forgiving work.

I was a 12-year-old boy when I heard my father shoot my mother in her head and kill her. I was a 12-year-old boy when I found my mother’s body fallen outside my bedroom door bleeding from a hideous hole in her right temple. I was a 12-year-old boy when the State of Illinois called on me as a chief witness against my father.

I was 45 years-old boy when I went to my father’s house to kill him. For 33 years, I deteriorated inside memories of my father’s cruel domestic violence. For 33 years I was steeped in rage, anger and hatred. So I went to kill my father. I went to his doorstep and put my frustrated face in front of his fragile face. I thought murder was the answer. I thought revenge held the key. I was wrong.

I forgave my father. I took him to my mother’s grave site. I took him to meet my children. He died two months later.

Before I reunited with my father, I often said “I hate him.” People would say “you should forgive him.”

When I reunited with my father, I often said “I love him.” People would say “how can you love him?”

I stopped tuning in to other people’s advice on the matter. I tuned into Channel Me.

I didn’t want the “weight” of hate and I despised the burden of revenge. I forgave my father, liberated myself and established a new family legacy.

I know something about forgiving. But the word forgiving means something different for everyone who says the word. We’ve all got different experiences. We all have different translations. We all have different truths.

Generally speaking to forgive is to surpass limitations. Forgiving is an expansion not a concession. Forgiving is forward. Forgiving is not failure. To forgive is to free your mind from the deceptive demons that whisper in your ears and say “you were defeated.” Forgiving brings on an instant and deep inner justice that no verdict can reverse. To forgive is to journey forward completely unshackled by chains of the past.

People will say: “I will forgive, but I will not forget.”

That popular, but questionable, saying is a discussion for another article. But to be sure here, I am not suggesting that you forget. I am suggesting you embrace liberating memories. Liberating memories are the channel through which you create a liberated future. Pain-filled memories can create a pain-filled future.

Change your channel and let the dead bury the dead.

Like a lot of people – like too many people – I watched the news on some television channel waiting for a verdict. FOX, CNN, CNBC. Doesn’t matter which channel, doesn’t matter the talking head. I was running their “objective” information through Channel Me. I looked at scenes from a place called Ferguson. I’d seen images like these before. I’d seen Black people respond like this before. Is this our best response? Is this our only response? Have we lost our imaginations?

How do we disrupt what we say is a vicious cycle perpetrated against Black Men? Is the answer to set fires? Loot for material shit? Turn cars over? Fight police? Throw bottles? Are these actions part of a spontaneous ritual in honor of people we claim to love?

We can and should do better. We can and should forgive Ferguson.

What would forgiving look like in Ferguson? It could start with a massive silence. It could continue with people quietly returning to their own homes, looking at their family members, expressing gratitude for life and recommitting to deep love. It could start with people forgiving and seeking forgiveness from those closest to them. It’s easy and maybe even convenient to go running out into the big crowds, getting lost in the group mentality and forgetting you have rifts right in your own home. Forgiving in Ferguson could start with each individual and in each individual household. I bet Michael would be cool with that.

There was a time when I would look at my children and wish my mother was alive and could see them. It took some time, but eventually it became very clear to me that my mother lives inside of my children. Her blood runs through their veins. Her blood supplies their heartbeats. She sees through their eyes. She is alive and very well.

My father did not and could kill my mother. Darren Wilson did not and could not kill Michael Brown. But is our inability to forgive killing Michael? Is our lack of imagination setting us up for more of the same shit on a different day?

When I was a little boy, I used to ask my mother when I would be old enough to fight my father. She always said the same thing: “I don’t want you to fight your father. I want you to be better.” She didn’t say I was better. She said “be better.”

Imagine a large, poised group of Black Men in Ferguson holding a press conference – a forgiveness press conference and asking Darren Wilson to join them. He agrees. They look him in the eyes and they forgive him. They embrace him. Together with Wilson, these Black Men establish an annual ritual for Michael. They get together to “be better” and remember together. This could actually happen. There are all kinds of possibilities when you journey into forgiving.

Can you imagine breaking bread with someone who killed your loved one? Can you imagine getting to know someone who killed your loved one? I can.

You can’t? Maybe it’s time for you to tune out the social static and change your channel. Maybe you should reflect on what you can do where you live to Forgive Ferguson and bring honor to this moment.

Michael is watching us. Eric is watching us. Trayvon is watching us. Emmett is watching us. Like my mother Clarice, they are alive and very well. What do they see? What would they want? Fighting or forgiving? Bitter or better?

Forgiving changes everything and everywhere.

Even in Ferguson.

 

Butch Slaughter

Ulysses “Butch” Slaughter is author of the forthcoming book “Forgive: the new mantra for Black Men.” Mr. Slaughter has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Network, The Dr. Phil Show and The CNN Headline News Network with Suzanne Roberts. Born and raised on Chicago’s South Side, Slaughter developed an early and passionate interest in the concepts of forgiving and reconciliation. Devastated at age 12 by the murder of his mother at the hands of his father, Mr. Slaughter traveled a long and difficult philosophical and psychological road toward resolution. Chief witness against his father, Slaughter was obsessed with revenge against his father. After three decades of estrangement, Mr. Slaughter and his father, Ulysses, Sr., reunited and co-founded The Odyssey Project a dynamic human development campaign committed to “family reconciliation through father restoration.” Slaughter is an entrepreneur, author and filmmaker behind the powerful documentary collection “Odyssey To Save Ulysses.” Mr. Slaughter is Chief Navigator of Slaughter and Slaughter, a multi-faceted development consultant company that specializes in holistic reconciliation. His expertise in difficult family reconciliations was the subject of an Oprah Winfrey Network pilot called “Reconciled.” Mr. Slaughter has appeared on The Dr. Phil Show, The Judith Reagan Show and The Trinity Broadcast Network. Mr. Slaughter is author of the book “Dear Daddy, I hate you: letters to my mother’s killer” and Founder of The Faces of Our Fathers Film Festival.

To learn more visit his official website: http://www.ulyssesbutchslaughter.com/

 

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