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Day 28: “Live on Purpose” by Vanessa Werts


The Heart Factor featuring Vanessa Werts

Note from The Publisher:

One of my goals for this website in 2018 was to develop more content in the areas of :  Health and Wellness” and “Relationships.”  “The Heart Factor” was developed to help you, and to help you help others.  This column is about accountability.  This column is about healing.  This column is about relationships.  The column is about the heartAs a result, I am very proud to present The Heart Factor,” featuring author Vanessa Werts.  Vanessa speaks to men and women in a way that’s “hearable.”  To quote Vanessa, “No one escapes getting hurt in this life.  There are so many unavoidable issues that break the heart such as emotional, mental and physical abuse; abandonment and rejection; a lack of hope from unfulfilled desires; loss and grief; being unhappy with one’s physical attributes, and the list goes on.”  

Enjoy “The Heart Factor” and the “30-Day Heart Cleanse” – Gary Johnson, Publisher – Black Men In

Day 28: Worship God!

You were created for worship. Your heartbeat is the percussion, your vocal cords are the strings, and your voice is the wind instrument. (Oh, yes!) Worship is a position of the heart. It is where your heart bows before the Master. Thankful, grateful and undone in His presence. He can work with a heart like that. Worship solves the matter…whatever the matter is. Leave  your troubles at His feet and exalt Him above your cares. Worship God!

Today’s Activation: Find a quiet place and spend time with your Father. Tell Him how good He is to you and be thankful.

16-17Going through the motions doesn’t please you, a flawless performance is nothing to you. I learned God-worship when my pride was shattered. Heart-shattered lives ready for love don’t for a moment escape God’s notice.

Psalm 51:16-17 MSG

Wisdom for Your Journey

Purposely love, purposely forgive, purposely celebrate your life. Be diligent to do the purposeful things as a son or daughter of the King. You are royalty seated in heavenly places. Pull your thoughts and living up to this place.

Rule and reign in your life and on earth. Speak those things that do not exist as though they were. Believe in God. Trust Him with your life. Move when He says move. Be still when He says not yet.

Set your sights on winning. Refuse to be defeated. When you fall down, get back up. Try again. Let the beat of your heart and functioning of your body be proof and approval that God has work for you to do.

Days 27: You Have Help

God did not create you, bless you, and gift you just to leave you to figure out life on your own. We have a Helper – the Holy Spirit. He intercedes for you, praying to the Father on your behalf; he tells you of things to come. AND, Jesus is your guide, leading you in the way you should go. Did you know he prayed for you before you were born? They both know God’s plan for your life. They know and speak the truth about you. Truth trumps facts and emotions. So, if you listen and follow them, you can’t go wrong.

Today’s Activation: Ask Jesus to help you with a specific issue, and trust that you will receive the answer.

26 And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. 27 And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. 

Romans 8:26-27 NLT

Day 26: Pursue Peace Always

Peace is a heavenly gift. It is not natural to be at peace in a chaotic world where things happen daily that cause emotional instability. We must pursue peace; it does not come easily. You can have it this morning, and by lunchtime, your emotions are leading the way. When you find that place of peace for your life, don’t let go of it. Peace is worth more than rubies and gold when you train your heart to let it rule.

Today’s Activation: Practice peace. Don’t allow anything to rattle you today. Trust God. He’s got you!

7 And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].

Philippians 4:7 AMP

Day 25: Faith Neutralizes Fear

Fear is a bully. It is at the root of your stress. You must eradicate it from your life. Fear will stop you from being you, trying new things; from believing, from hoping, from praying. Your faith will stop the harmful effects of stress on your health and your thoughts. If the resolution to the problem is out of your control, stop troubling your heart. Fix what you can and pray about the rest.

Today’s Activation: List the things that you stress about. Then ask yourself ‘why’ it’s an issue. Ask God to help you and believe that He will. Repeat.

7For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7

Day 24: Ready…Set…Activate!

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? What is stopping you? Don’t let these two get in your way: fear and time. War against them with faith. Speak faith. You CAN do it. Believe in yourself and trust God. Don’t talk yourself out of it (whatever ‘it’ is). Time is in God’s hand. He created it. He is eternal and unbound by your age. He is the Redeemer of time.

Today’s Activation: Take the next step in faith. God has prepared you with everything you need to activate your gifts, talents and abilities.

Additional Commentary: We all have to start somewhere. So, what is your next step? Ask yourself:

1.What breaks my heart when I hear about it?

  1. What pulls at my heart strings to the point I want to defend the defenseless?
  1. What cause would I give of my time, energy, and money to see a person’s life change for the better?

Get involved. Make a phone call. Lend a helping hand. Feed the homeless. Start a blog. Start your own business. Partner with another business. Apply for that job. Take a step today and activate your gifts and your faith!

Day 23: Wisdom and Understanding

Embrace the process. When you have a: dream, vision, call, talent, ability, gift, there is a process involved to help you develop and mature. Strategies are realized and confidence is established in the process. The wisdom of God will help you navigate the process as you grow in understanding.

Today’s Activation: Ask God what industry, people or group you’re called to serve with your gifts and talents.

Additional Commentary: Wisdom and understanding work together. It makes a difference when a Believer owns a business or works for a company. You bring the kingdom of God with you wherever you show up!

10 When wisdom enters your heart, and knowledge is pleasant to your soul, 11Discretion will preserve you; Understanding will keep you…Proverbs 2:10-11 NKJV

Day 22: Honor Yourself

Dishonor is not a Kingdom principle. When you are unclear on who you are and the greatness inside you, you run the risk of dishonoring yourself. You are royalty. A child of the King! Come into agreement with this truth. Repel any words that speak otherwise and carry yourself accordingly.

Today’s Activation: Look for traces of dishonor in your past to help you set standards for your life today.

But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light…

1 Peter 2:9 NKJV

Day 20 & 21: Pay it Forward

What have you overcome? What have you struggles with and won the battle? Someone else’s hope can be renewed when they hear your story and see you standing strong. Share your testimony. Pay it forward.

Today’s Activation: Share with someone how Jesus brought you through and gave you victory!

11 And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.

Revelation 12:11 NKJV

Day 19: Laughter is Medicine

Loss is traumatic for the heart. Grief, when it lingers too long, makes the heart heavy. Losing a loved one, a close relationship, divorce; losing your home, a job, a business…are experiences of loss that can make it hard to be joyful. But there is a cure. Something that you can do to help you break through: Laughter.

Today’s activation: Laugh. However you get it done, keep the laughter going today.

22 A happy heart is good medicine and a joyful mind causes healing, But a broken spirit dries up the bones.

Proverbs 17:22 AMP

Additional Commentary: If you know someone who makes you laugh, give them a call. Maybe you have a TV show that keeps you in stitches. Or perhaps you are the funniest person you know. Whichever way you get it done, keep the laughter going today.

Day 18: Celebrate Your Achievements

Pat yourself on the back. What have you accomplished that “you” haven’t acknowledged the sacrifice, strength, tenacity, and endurance it took to achieve? It could be education, raising a child, promotion, retirement, adapting to military life, being a veteran, running a marathon, starting a business, breaking through the walls of fear, writing a book, celibacy, self-control, etc. This is a day of celebration, and you are the guest of honor!

Today’s Activation: Do something special in honor of your achievements. This is a mandatory action.

Day 17: Settle in To Your Life

The best day of your life happened when you asked Jesus to come into your heart! You didn’t choose Him. He chose you! Now, settle in to your life. God has your life planned out. No need to chase down people, promotion, or success. These blessings spring up along the path of your life as you are aligned with God’s purpose for creating you. Share your gifts and talents. Doing so will lead to divine connections, resources, encounters, purpose, and good success.

Today’s Activation: Ask God for opportunities to share your gifts. Bless a life before midnight.

Additional Commentary: If you believe that God raised Jesus from the dead, say so! Welcome to your new, abundant life!

Day 16: What are Your Talents and Abilities?

You have God-given gifts, and talents & abilities. We all have a purpose designed for service. When you show up in a room, your gifts show up too! Your talents and abilities get you noticed. Don’t hide them. Don’t shrink back. The world is waiting for you to share who you are. Your family needs you to share who you are. What can you do that comes naturally? What are you great at (baking, writing, making people laugh, organizing, mentoring, doing hair, doing makeup, creating new things)?

Today’s Activation: Understand what your talents and unique abilities are and start pursuing them.

Additional Commentary: Celebrate your life! Your gifts, talents and abilities are what you’re about. Show up at the table and in the rooms that open to you and be great!

Day 15: What are Your Gifts?

Knowing your God-given gift(s) is essential for walking in your God-given purpose. They are part of your make-up; given to you by God as a gift to serve others. The seven (7) God-given gifts are: gift of prophecy, ministry (service), teaching, encourage, giving, leading, showing mercy. Each one of us has a gift or gifts to give. It’s true!

Today’s Activation: How has God used you past and present to touch lives, to uplift family, friends, co-workers, a stranger? Make a note of your gift.

6 Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to use them accordingly: if [someone has the gift of] prophecy, [let him speak a new message from God to His people] in proportion to the faith possessed;7 if service, in the act of serving; or he who teaches, in the act of teaching;8 or he who encourages, in the act of encouragement; he who gives, with generosity; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy [in caring for others], with cheerfulness.

Romans 12:6-8 AMP


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Day 14: Relax and Reflect

In search of your soul mate? Jesus is the soulmate your heart is longing for. #loveundernewmanagement   #relationshipgoals

As the deer pants [longingly] for the water brooks, So my soul pants [longingly] for You, O God.

Psalm 42:1 AMP

Day 13: Love Endures All Things

What is love? Radical Acceptance. Every heart wants to be handled this way. What love is not? Manipulation and control; tactics that attempt to own and chain a heart. Walk in love. But know the difference. Your destiny depends on it,

Today’s Activation: Speak life-giving words to a struggling relationship (marriage, children, parents, a friend…). If God leads, reach out and break the ice. Be a conduit of love.

Day 12: Love Rejoices with the Truth

Winning Matters. There is a path set before you called destiny. The goal is to reach it and win. You have no competitors, yet there is training involved. Your heart must be conditioned (and positioned) so that you run well. Don’t let disappointment and discouragement, sorrow, and unmet desires of the heart get you off track. Be encouraged today! Do the heart cleansing work while you wait for God to reveal the next leg of your journey. Arise and shine! Stir up your zeal and run to win!

Today’s Activation: Give your troubles, sorrow, and waning hope to God, and, trust His process.

24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run [their very best to win], but only one receives the prize? Run [your race] in such a way that you may seize the prize and make it yours!

1 Corinthians 9:24 AMP

More Revelation:

The words one speaks give sound to the tune playing in their heart. How one behaves is merely the heart performing.

34…For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.  – Jesus

Matthew 12:34 NKJV

Day 11: Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs

Tough love. What is it? Who can define it? How far will it go? Does it ever show mercy? Does it become tender love at any point? Train, teach, lead, set boundaries. But, be careful of “tough loving” yourself and others. The receiving heart doesn’t know what to do with it. God didn’t give instructions for it.

Today’s Activation: Destroy the record of wrongs you hold against yourself today. Yes, forgive. Also, take an act to destroy the record of wrongs you hold against someone close to you.

10 In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation. 

1 Peter 5:10 NLT

Day 10: Love Doesn’t Demand Its Own Way

Forgiving heals the heart; love trains it. Today, it’s time to show an act of love. The heart loves to give love. Push past the need to be “right,” and validate someone instead. Let love expand and soften your heart today.

Today’s Activation: Carry out a radical act of love today. Be creative! Encourage someone; feed the homeless, call an old friend and make their day. Speak more gently to your kids and/or mate. You get the picture. Put a smile on someone else’s face day.

13A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.

Proverbs 15:13 NLT

Additional Commentary: Love does not demand its own way; it does not dishonor others. Honor someone today. Put a smile on their face.


Day 9: Love is Kind

Be kind to yourself today. Say kind things to yourself. You are wonderful and unique. You are exactly what God wanted when He created you. Too often negative words are spoken to us by those we love and even strangers. How easy it is for the world then to try and define us. So, today, choke out the negative things by speaking kind words to yourself.

Today’s Activation: Do something for yourself that makes you smile. Treat your wonderful one-of-a-kind self, good today – all day long!

Additional Commentary: Love is patient. Love is kind… The heart cleanse is about your heart. Your soul needs to know that you love yourself. From there, you will know how to love others. Be good to yourself today.

More Revelation:

Stress is about fear … fear of the unknown.

Faith is about trusting God with the unknown.

Fear is at the root of your anxiety, panic, stress and depression (non-clinical).

It’s not about stress management it is about “self” management: cleansing the heart, renewing the mind, and trusting God.

25 Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes it glad.

Proverbs 12:25 NKJV

Day 8: Love is Patient

God is not surprised that you’re waiting. Patience is about waiting (without attitude) for God’s divine timing to bring things about in your life. Don’t let frustration and anxiety play games with your heart. Frustration and anxiety will lead you to have safety nets and a plan B. (Watch out for this.) Your life is on God’s timetable. Glean the lessons from where you are now. God loves you and plans to prosper you; to give you hope and a future. Trust Him and be patient with yourself.

Today’s Activation: If you’re considering an alternative option just in case God doesn’t come through for you, ask God to help you wait for Him.

16 You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.  Psalms 139: 16 NLT

Additional Commentary: Every day of your life was planned by God since the beginning of time. If there is a delay in things happening, be patient. He knows what He’s doing. You are always on His mind. Pray and wait and watch for His hand, moving in your life.

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Lastly, before you close this letter, if the word that God spoke directly to me about honoring myself speaks to where you are in your life right now, replace my name with yours in that paragraph. Speak that word over your life daily until your heart, mind, soul and body come into agreement with it. God will help you with this and inspire you with ways to change your life for the better.

Peace in all things,


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VANESSA D. WERTS is an author, military veteran, and minister with an abiding love to bridge the gap from people’s life experiences to the promises of God. Vanessa is a native of Birmingham, Alabama and currently resides with her family in a suburb of Washington, DC.

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