By Gary A. Johnson, Black Men In America.com
September 9, 2014
Late last evening the Associated Press published video that showed what led up to the confrontation. Prior to being knocked out, Janay and Ray Rice exchanged obscenities. Additional video footage shows that Janay Rice spit in her husband’s face and then he punched her with a left hook rendering her unconscious.
Mrs. Rice says that the media’s reaction to the event didn’t take into account her role in creating the altercation. Janay Rice took to social media via her Instagram account this morning and posted the following:
“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend,” she said in an Instagram post. “But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare itself. No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret everyday is a horrible thing.
“To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”
Wow! This is a bit much to digest. Note to Mrs. Rice: The media did not ruin your life. Your husband ruined your life when he hit you in the face and knocked you unconscious. He then treated you like a hefty trash bag and used his leg to push you out of the elevator and then dragged you into the lobby.
Janay Rice’s reaction is a sad and predictable commentary. This is a woman who married the man the same month that he knocked her out.
The fallout from Ray Rice’s suspension from the NFL has even cut short his video game career. EA Sports will cut him out of their video game and Nike has terminated his contract. In addition, the Baltimore Ravens released details of their Ray Rice Jersey Exchange program. Fans can go to the stadium and trade in their Ray Rice jersey for a jersey worn by another Ravens player. This incident and the comments from Ray’s wife Janay sparked some very critical conversations about domestic violence in this country. This issue is not going away. It would not surprise me if some executives in the NFL front office lost their job. The entire Rice family needs some professional and quality help.
I wonder how her mother and father feel about what has happened to their daughter. This family needs counseling and professional help and I hope they get it.
Gary A. Johnson is the Founder & Publisher of Black Men In America.com a popular online magazine on the Internet and the Black Men In America.com Blog. Gary is also the author of the book “25 Things That Really Matter In Life.”
I agree they do need counseling in hopes of moving fwd. Although it doesn’t change the outcome…and Iet me be clear in advance of my quoted statement that in no way I condone his actions…”I don’t know many people that you can spit in their face and not cause a chain reaction or they walk away”. Oh, correction there is one…Jesus The Christ.
James: One of the guys in the office made the same point about the spitting. I think you worded your comments clearly and carefully. You do not condone the act of hitting a woman but like you, a couple of the guys in this office debated whether they would have had the discipline to walk away and not have some type of chain reaction if a woman spits on you. Bottom line, you MUST walk away. Thanks for the comment.