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25 Things That Really Matter In Life by Gary A. Johnson


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“25 Things That Really Matter In Life” is designed to get you started living a better life within the next fifteen minutes. Moreover, here’s the best thing: You can read this book in an hour and it will still be relevant five years from now. The book changes with you.

If you’re looking for a book written by a highly credentialed author with letters after his name to help you find out who you are and what happened in your life that made you the way you are, this is not the book for you. If you want a book to help you begin to change your life right now, then keep reading because this is the book for you.

Here’s What People Are Saying About The Book:

“Gary Johnson has taken his personal pain and turned it into the power to share home truths.  His list of the things we need for a fulfilling and successful life will be confirmation for some, a reminder for others, and a much-needed wake-up call for still another group of readers.  This is a great gift for people at life’s crossroads, and for those looking for a tool to guide them through self-exploration.”

Dr. Julianne Malveaux
President, Bennett College for Women/Economist, Author & Commentator

“Gary Johnson has written a book that will encourage you, inspire you and empower you for greater personal and professional success!  It will help you do more, be more and achieve more! Read it and then re-read it!  You will be glad you did!”

Willie Jolley
Best Selling Author of “It Only Takes A Minute To Change Your Life” and “A Setback Is A Setup For A Comeback”

About the Book

“25 Things That Really Matter In Life” is a little book with a big message. The techniques and steps that are described in the following pages are ones that the author has used for over thirty years.  If you commit to them, the author guarantees you will live a more meaningful and healthier life.

Changing certain aspects of your life is not easy.  Looking at your life and the choices you’ve made in an open and honest way can be an emotional and gut-wrenching experience.  As you rewind your mental tapes, you are likely to see a pattern of decision-making that is self-defeating or sabotaging. It doesn’t have to be that way.

This is your chance to enhance your quality of life and to feel good about yourself.  You can improve your situation today.  Don’t blow this opportunity. Victory is near.

Control the quality of your life by making “25 Things That Really Matter In Life” a part of your daily living. This book was written for people who have some sense of needing to make changes in their life, but do not know how to do it.


Photo #1:  Gary and NY Times Bestselling author Omar Tyree.  Photo #2:  Gary and the incomparable Ella Curry owner of EDC Creations Media Group, LLC


Photo #1:  Gary with author Vanessa Werts (Lies and Love).  Photo #2:  Gary signing a book for photographer and author L. J. Flood

About The Author

Gary is the owner of Gary A. Johnson Company & Associates, LLC, a management training and consultant firm. He’s also the founder of several web sites including Black Men In, one of the top web sites for African Americans on the Internet.

Book Excerpt (STEP 1)

25 Things That Really Matter In Life

#1. Faith: Have faith in God or believe in something other than yourself. Faith is the greatest power at your disposal. Faith never fails. You need to believe in yourself in order to convince others to believe in you. Pray and ask God to give you the strength and humility to be more focused and forgiving. Leave the negative aspects of living to a higher power so you can live your best life. The only time you can fail is when you give up on faith, so incorporate faith as part of your spirit. Then, when negative circumstances confront you, you automatically go into “Faith Mode,” a way of life that allows you to behave without fear of the opposing forces that may surround you. There are levels of faith. Having strong faith is a process. If your faith is not at the highest level, you may suffer a setback. This is no reason to quit or give up. You will not be strong overnight. (Faith moved me to quit my job. With a wife and two small children, I chose to change my career and pursue a path I had been doing for less than three years. I developed a solid and flexible plan that guided me to where I am today. There are no limitations on how much faith you can have. Fear causes paralysis. Faith is an energizer.)

#2. Family: Spending quality time with your family (spouse, children, and parents) can extend your life. Loved ones at home, who love you, are among the things in life that really matter. (When I was growing up, family was important in my life. Aunts, uncles and cousins lived in my neighborhood. Most of us worshiped at the same church and vacationed together. Family was a way of life that was never challenged. That foundation remains solid today: My family members never distanced themselves from me.)

#3. Love: Despite the high divorce rate (approximately fifty percent), studies show people who are in committed, monogamous relationships believe they have healthier and happier lives. A strong emotional connection with the one you love is paramount for a happy existence. Love should feel euphoric. When you find that special someone who will not take advantage of your vulnerabilities, who you trust implicitly, who can communicate with you in a manner that is “hearable” and who is consistent in his or her behavior, then you will live a happier and more meaningful life. When you totally surrender to the other person, you will experience a bond sealed by a higher power. One of the best things about having a true love is that everything you do together is special. (Love is expressed in many ways: patience, kindness, caring, forgiveness, and so forth. Self-love is probably the most important aspect of love. I’ve learned that you must have boundaries in love. You can’t keep saying “Yeswithout being able to say “No.” Falling in love is easy. Maintaining love is something entirely different. In my early relationships, I was comfortable with conflict (arguing.) Later in life, I overcompensated by avoiding conflict. I’m a “work in progress” when it comes to having my needs met. For me, loving someone and making someone feel loved are different. Love requires balance. Are you able to identify the important components of love and balance them with the other aspects of your life? Some of us confuse lust with love. Lust desires to take . . . love desires to give.)

#4. Children: A happy family is the key to a happy life, especially with your children. Quality relationships with your children will help you stay balanced and will help them lead balanced lives. The only way to cultivate and sustain solid relationships with your children is to spend quality time with them. Turn off the television, leave work early, and invest your time where you’ll get the most return, which is with the ones you love. From the time my children were infants, I took them everywhere I went. I even set up a workstation at my office and home office for them. We worked, laughed, talked and played every day. One of my fondest memories is watching my children laugh. When children are laughing, all is right with the world. (I was born to be a dad. Having a good relationship with my children is one of the most important factors for my happiness and stability. The best gift that a man can give to his children, in addition to spending time with them, is to model the appropriate behavior consistently.)

#5. Good Health: Good health is paramount to good living. Good health is something many people tend to appreciate only when it’s deteriorating or gone. You can have millions of dollars in the bank, a beautiful house and a nice car, and it will mean very little if you’re sick. Take care of your mind, body and soul. (I’m in relatively good health. I have no physical limitations. Like many people, living a healthy life style was not a priority.  Although I never smoked, used drugs, or drank alcohol, I had poor eating habits and didnt exercise consistently throughout the first half of my life. I wish I had acted differently. Today, I realize that those poor eating habits have not been kind to me. Living a healthier lifestyle can add years to your life).

Gary J. 2008 25 Things Cover

Courtland – The Official Publisher of “25 Things That Really Matter In Life”

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