By Gary A. Johnson – Publisher, Black Men In America.com
On Friday, November 18, 2016, I had a great day. I was invited to be a guest lecturer at the Kogod School of Business at American University in Washington, DC. My book, “25 Things That Really Matter In Life,” (a great Christmas gift stocking stuffer) is on sale at the University library. I was asked great questions about my book, my career and what I think it takes to be successful in business and in life.
Now to more serious business. I was very curious to find out if there were any mass walkouts and crying safe zones on campus to support the students who were upset that Donald Trump won the 2016 presidential election. Some colleges and universities are encouraging students to cry, cuddle with puppies and sip hot chocolate to soothe their fragile psyches. Some colleges and universities actually delayed exams, cancelled classes and offered grief counseling to students distraught over the election results. Are you kidding me? It appears that we are raising college age kindergartners.
Dozens of students at Cornell University gathered for a “cry-in” to mourn the results of the presidential election with school staff providing tissues and hot chocolate. GTFOH? Other colleges have reportedly brought in therapy dogs, Play-Doh and coloring books to help the students cope. This is one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever heard. Why would a college or university participate in such coddling of students? What am I missing? Someone PLEASE enlightenment me. Is this the result of the “everyone gets a participation trophy” era?
“I literally couldn’t get out of bed,” said University of Pennsylvania sophomore Amanda Agyapong, 18, a psychology pre-med major from Ghana who has spent the last 11 years in the United States. She skipped class Wednesday morning, so devastated that she said she didn’t want to leave her room. It was only when the Black Cultural Center offered to host a lunch that she decided to go and be with other students. Similar incidents have been reported on the campuses of Brown University and University of Northern Iowa.
Other therapy sessions included:
- University of Pennsylvania brought in a puppy and a kitten for therapeutic cuddling.
- Tufts University held arts and crafts sessions for students.
- University of Michigan Law School scheduled an event called “Post-Election Self-Care With Food and Play” with “stress-busting self-care activities” including coloring, blowing bubbles, sculpting with Play-Doh and “positive card making.”
- Boston University skipped the hot chocolate and therapy animals, but scheduled a set of post-election discussions aimed at helping students process a democratic election that didn’t go their way.
These young men and women are our future. What’s going to happen when they graduate and get jobs in the real world and their bosses yell at them? What if they screw up and they have to stay late to make up for a mistake? Or have an argument with a co-worker? Are they going to have a panic attack and ask to go to the “Safe” zone? Employers and the real world will kick their ass and tell them to “shut the hell up” and get the hell out of the company. There are no crying rooms, coloring books and therapy dogs in the real world.
What’s going to happen when these college kids get out in the real world and their boss yells at one of them? Can you imagine their panic when they realize there’s no pony in the next room that they can stroke to make them feel better? What happens when they have a disagreement with a co-worker? Will they want to go home because the company doesn’t have a room with coloring books, Legos and Play-Doh?
In real life, sometime you win and sometime you lose. You can’t always have things your way. If I heard that one of my sons skipped class for a “cry-in,” we would have a “come to Jesus meeting” like you would not believe.
I asked one of the professors at American University if they had any “cry-in” areas or therapy dogs. He replied that he was not aware of any of those things on campus. He said you might find something along the lines of “Trump 2016,” written on the pavement in chalk.
Kristin Tate, the 24-year-old author of “Government Gone Wild,” said it best: “We are grooming our students to be sensitive crybabies when we need to be showing students how to deal with world situations and how to be adults –there are no ‘safe spaces’ in the real world.”
The therapy dogs weren’t limited to college campuses. Democratic staffers were so upset over the Trump victory that “therapy dogs” were brought into the U.S. Capitol to soothe their hurt feelings. Two golden doodles, two American Eskimo dogs, and a beagle mix were walked around the Cannon Office Building where many members of the House of Representatives have offices, according to NBC News.
Gary A. Johnson is the Founder of Gary A. Johnson Company & Associates, LLC, a management training and consulting company. The company manages a variety of Internet and digital media enterprises including Black Men In America.com, one of the most popular web sites on the Internet, Black Men In America.com Dating and the Black Men In America.com Syndicated Blog. In addition, the company manages Homework Help Page.com, an educational resource site for children, college students and parents.
Sources: Multiple media and news sources.