By Dr. Jerry “Doc” Semper
With today’s growing discord based on skin color, religion, politics, where you live in this country, what part of the world you call home, we need to find peace and “common ground” on just being Human Beings.
My thoughts on what I term “Humanistic Inclusion” are more relevant today then at any time in the past. If we don’t come together as Humans, we may not survive as anything.
We can come together out of necessity, for example, when there is some disaster, like when a fire, flood or earthquake hits a community. When that happens EVERYONE comes together and pitches in to help. Since this is Memorial Day weekend it reminds of how soldiers can put aside their personal differences for the good of the mission.
I believe we are living in a time when we MUST put aside our personal differences and come together as ONE for our worldwide and mutual benefit.
Perhaps we need only act as though a huge disaster has occurred, and deal with it as people — humans working together.
Humanistic Inclusion is a social science technology developed by Dr. Jerry “Doc” Semper that promotes “Man,” always be appropriately kind to all persons as much as circumstances permit. Humans should welcome with sincere appreciation all others of the human species, unless circumstances require otherwise. Our default towards others should be to Trust, and have appropriate Manners, as our way of being.
Improving Family Interactions
Speak kind loving words, as much as possible. Be about promoting harmony with family members as often as possible. Hugs, and kisses are needed; even the “mob”, does it. Many citizens of other countries and religions conduct their everyday lives, by including hugs, and kisses; as signs of affection and caring.
Everything is not for everyone, including Dr. Spock. Some of the things espoused are not appropriate to several groups of young people. The method used by Spock is more effective with groups that view the world and events as Spock did. As parents values and conditions “line up”, with those as explained by Spock, then the methodology becomes far more achievable. Not being in line with Spock creates implementation problems, using his approach. There is no one size fits all in child rearing, the best methods stem from caring, and doing the right thing, because it is the right thing.
Prying parents have a better chance of controlling, by asking questions, interest is shown, and an opportunity to influence is created. Properly executed an information-sharing bond will be created. Having information in common may bring about closeness in family, through communication.
Learning to “out think” your children, by “coaching” them towards the directions you as a parent have chosen for them, is the best method for moving young people, positively. It is better to rule with “sincerity, and “cunning” rather then relying on fear and brute force; the later, requiring proximity, and communication; the former, effective whether near or far.
Teach life skills; those things necessary for a better life. Teach children how to determine “better”, as a gauge towards assessing present position. Teach that in order to get there, it is necessary to know the starting point. Teach that style is just one aspect of our daily interactions, with both people known, and strangers Teach children to look for “sincerity of purpose”, especially when dealing with “authority figures”. Teach that disagreeing with the “coach” may be appropriate, providing the understanding that the “coach” is.
A “ranking order” is necessary, and it should be known. Oftentimes, it isn’t discussed, except in anger. Temporary shifting of command is fine, however it must be understood, the structure remains ” intact, ” a seeming promotion that is temporary, based on current conditions. Allowing a leadership role, for small tasks, creates a teachable moment, use it. One way to learn, is to watch carefully A better way is to be able, to watch, participate, and ask questions.
We should spend time teaching children, especially our own. When teaching children it is important to remember, who you were, at that age. Those thoughts will provide a starting point for decisions; by giving a basis for actions.
About Doc Semper
Jerry “Doc” Semper is an internationally known “Leadership Life Skills” training consultant and seminar leader for organizations and individuals seeking to improve in both productivity and harmony. He uses effective, practical principles developed from academic training, combined with hands-on involvement as a team member with police, military, and Fortune 500 corporations. A provider of specific programs for Youth and Families, for several national organizations; a Police Department trainer for well over 100 organizations; a trainer for Educators, and Government employees of several agencies; and a sought-after Corporate trainer for Fortune 200 companies. His programs receive widespread recognition for substance, and immediate results.
“Doc” is President of Semper Associates Coaching Academy. He is a Vietnam era veteran, a Criminal Justice Professor, a former Acting Assistant U.S. Attorney, Minority Affairs Specialist for AARP, co-author of the National Community Oriented Police Curriculum, and a former decorated New York City Police Officer.
A former Senior Consultant for Skillpath Seminars. “Doc” infuses learning with motivation that causes participants to become pro-active. He is an excellent facilitator and trainer in all areas of human development.
“Doc” holds a Juris Doctorate from Howard University and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from Fordham University.
This article was originally published on May 29, 2017